Society & Culture
Hitting the 'Record' Button
For the first time in a long time, I didn’t hit the ‘record’ button on the videoconferencing software. As a result, the conversation I would have turned into a podcast episode was not recorded.
And yet, the person I was talking to and I both acted like it was being recorded. We behaved as if the cloud were absorbing our thoughts. We watched our words, monitored our tone, made our points, and when we disagreed, did so respectfully.
Did we already have great behavior, or was our tendency to be respectful with each other mediated, informed, and censored by the fact that we believed the interaction was going to be part of posterity?
At least temporarily on the Internet.
The tools that monitor and record us are changing our behavior as much as we are molding the tools to work with us. It’s a symbiotic relationship rather than a dictatorial posture, no matter what the marketing folks who work for the technologists would want you to believe.
The Myth of the City
According to the writer and creator of the show, Yellowstone, he was told repeatedly by Hollywood executives when he was initially shopping the pitch of creating a show where most of the action occurred on a ranch in rural Montana, that, “We won’t pick up a show that pitches stories from rural areas. It’s been that way since the 1970s. We only pick up stories that we can market to the urban areas of the country.”
If this is an accurate anecdote, and memories of pitch meetings in Hollywood are notoriously full of holes, and Hollywood hagiography is its own form of storytelling, what it means is that for at least three generations in American popular culture, the myth of the city as the only place where “the action is” has been actively marketed over the reality we all live with in our lives.
That’s not to say that urban stories and myths aren’t part of the fabric of the American myth. They clearly are, all the way back to the Boston Tea Party. But it does open the door to thinking critically about how much of the post-modern mythos about the sexiness of urban living is just really marketing by Hollywood executives with a directive to follow from their immediate bosses.
The Singularity Appears
According to the prognosticators and breathless technophiles, the singularity, a point where artificial intelligence begins improving itself faster than humans can monitor or control, has apparently arrived.
The singularity hasn’t arrived, of course, in your daily life.
You know, all the places where the “intelligence on silicon” has been around for a while, but its impact is hidden from you directly, like in the navigation apps on your phone, or in the algorithms that show you more of what you click on in a social media feed.
The singularity hasn’t arrived, of course, in your relationships with other people, which remain messy, fraught with conflict, and unpredictable. Nor has it arrived, of course, in the myths you tell yourself and others, that continue to allow you to get up in the morning and go to work.
But, make no mistake: The singularity has arrived.
Ok.
And now that the singularity is here, soon, very soon indeed, “intelligence on silicon” will consume, overwhelm, and subsume “intelligence on carbon.”
Except, of course, carbon-based intelligence has gone pretty far in the last 5,000 years or so. And the people who are interested in a competing intelligence–those prognosticators and breathless technophiles I already mentioned–are usually the same people who devalue, dismiss, and disbelieve in the ongoing symbiotic relationships between intelligence, consciousness, and relationships among and between humans and machines together. They aren’t exactly fans of man.
To quote from a recent review of the book (…I know, I know…) The AI Paradox by Virginia Dignum in The Nation, “The more AI can do, the more it highlights the irreplaceable nature of human intelligence." She (Dignum) writes, " AI is good at certain tasks, such as “data analysis, logical reasoning, and linguistic processing.” Yet it struggles with others, especially those involving creativity, empathy, “moral and ethical discernment,” the “capacity for complex reasoning,” and the “ability to reason about relationships between concepts.”
Huh. How about that? And Ms. Dignum has been working with “intelligence on silicon” since at least the 1980s.
The singularity is here. Right on time, it appears, to reliably, meet its ceiling in the form of the humans who made it.
Most People are Terrible Negotiators
Most adults, for better or worse, are terrible negotiators.
This is for many reasons, but the two primary ones are, one, adults don’t know how to ask clearly, concisely, and consistently for what they want from other people. And two, adults aren’t honest enough and vulnerable enough with themselves to know what they really want in the first place.
Case in point: Three-year-old children are really good at negotiating with adults and other children. They know what they want, and they ask for–or demand–that which they want clearly, concisely, and consistently from other people. They are also radically transparent, vulnerable, and honest with themselves about what they want. Adults tend to view how a three-year-old expresses their needs and desires as immature, selfish, and naive, but adults, for all of their social sophistication in masking their needs and desires from other adults out of fear of being taken advantage of, aren’t any less immature, selfish, and naive.
When adults know what they want and dare to express those needs and desires in a way that other adults can hear and respond to, they become better negotiators. They also become less fearful of outcomes and consequences. Both of getting what they want and of not getting what they want.
The social sophistication adults demand of others in a negotiation is really, at the bottom, just a deep desire for those other adults to be as confused and misdirected as they are. Because the kind of direct clarity that successful negotiation requires scares adults with its power to change status, change social games, and change culture. Continuing a pattern of confusion and misdirection through terrible negotiation leads to increased conformity, preserves fragile status games, and allows the myth of an egalitarian, non-hierarchical society to continue. Which is what adults are really negotiating over all the time.
If those fragile, egalitarian, and non-hierarchical structures are the psychological, social, and cultural constructs we’re bent on preserving as adults with our terrible negotiations, then let’s just be honest with each other about it. And let’s not act surprised when a moderately sophisticated negotiator who has radically different desires comes along and upsets the apple cart of our carefully constructed, yet terrible, paradigm.
Fan of Man
Being a fan of human beings has always been a difficult proposition. However, in the era of seemingly instant transmission of information, the speed with which human beings can transmit gossip has never had human precedent before.
Sure, human beings can, and do, transmit good things about each other–praises, kudos, claps, and positivity–but the flood of negative gossip is overwhelming. And consuming, observing, and commenting on that flood is designed to be both corrosive and addictive.
Because “if it bleeds it leads” and no entertainer, huckster, influencer, grifter, magician, or marketer (but I repeat myself endlessly) ever went broke underestimating the unending human appetite for negative gossip rooted in envy, pride, lust, vanity, covetousness, and jealousy.
This makes it hard (but not impossible) to argue against the materialist reductionist mindset to human behavior. It makes it hard to argue that “intelligence on silicon” isn’t a better option. Human beings' behavior undermines the argument before it even leaves the mouth of the human making it.
But…
Man wasn’t created to be in a relationship with silicon. Man was created to be in relationship with the natural world, and the other, perpetually messy, people in it. The ceiling of our clean, unmessy, and artificial creations will eventually hit, is the ceiling of relationships.
That’s worth being a fan of man in order to defend.
Anchoring Gatekeeping
Publishing conspiracy theories online isn’t the only way to manipulate and direct an audience’s beliefs.
However, when what we’re reading online doesn’t match what we’re seeing in the rest of our lives, we still have to make a decision about what, or whom, to believe.
We all want our ways of looking at the world confirmed by people, institutions, and even systems. We want that because such confirmation builds trust. And without trust, all that results–in families, tribes, communities, neighborhoods, and even up to the level of nation-states–is suspicion, chaos, fear, and eventually, polarization, conflict, and battle.
Gatekeepers used to exist to maintain trust. In the coming future, where online content will become even more suspect and mistrusted, people who can successfully and consistently gatekeep reality itself will be sought out and trusted. This phenomenon will be less about who is “telling the truth” to power, to an opposing side in an argument, or even to reality itself, and it will be more about who has consistently been proven correct about the dichotomous nature of people, institutions, and even systems.
The people who are going to gatekeep reality in the future must anchor their gatekeeping to the Truth of the work in this fallen world of a transcendent God, in all of His Glory and Might.
Jesus is King. And that’s no conspiracy theory.
Thinking Clearly
The question of our biologically overstimulated and psychologically anxious times is this one: How clearly do you think?
Clear thinking is a product of mental discipline, calm, and, of course, accurate comprehension of whatever it is that you are seeing and hearing. Clear thinking comes before critical thinking. But we tend not to separate those two functions in our minds and self-conceptions, but we should.
The level of heightened diagnoses of attention deficit disorder, anxiety (personal and social), and other mental health maladies is typically attributed to external factors, such as the effects of interpersonal trauma, abuse, diet, entertainment, and social-technological changes. Of course, the primary solution for addressing the impact of these factors on people’s mental health (and thus their thinking) invariably involves a pharmaceutical or therapeutic intervention.
Maybe that’s the correct approach. Maybe that’s the way to guide people back to the type of clear thinking, comprehension of reality, and critical thinking we all need at scale in order to survive the endless whiplash of societal changes we all seem to be moving through and having imposed upon us.
However, without individuals standing athwart their own mental confusion and self-declaring, “Stop,” the solutions currently proposed will remain, at best, catch as catch can.
The Twilight of the Novel
The book, as a technology for transmitting information, ideas, and concepts across time, is probably one of the top five inventions human beings have ever created. Included in that august list would also be indoor plumbing, penicillin, capitalism, and the internal combustion engine. The book–for all of the handwringing about its position as a technological influencer in Western culture right now–in its current modernist (or post-modernist form, if you will) is not on its last legs.
The novel, a variation of the liquid of ideas the container of the book holds, may indeed be on its last legs, however. The reasons for the death of the novel are many, including the following:
1). Human interiority and curiosity about the internal psychology of other people built the novel, and the deconstruction of that curiosity has led to its destruction.
2). The length of a reader’s attention spans and an audience’s cultural connection to historical material and social references across time go hand in hand. That chain has been breaking for at least the last thirty years.
3). The supremacy of other, more visually compelling media that get across the primary message of interiority to an audience better, e.g., film, TV, and of course, video on the Internet, has combined to beat up the novel.
But remember, even with all this, a novel is just a story placed in the format of a book. From Don Quixote to As I Lay Dying, and from Play It as It Lays to the current list of popular, AI-produced novels featured on Goodreads, the novel has probably gone about as far as it can go within the confines of the medium of the book.
This fact doesn’t mean that stories themselves are dead. Humans have been telling each other stories since the beginning of creation and will continue doing so until creation is wound up. It means that the types of content a book can contain will subtly shift.
Over the next 125 years of the book, the medium won’t die. It’s too resilient for that. But what will happen, I think, is that brave creatives, not trapped by the assumptions of the last 300+ years of Enlightenment novelization and cultural storytelling modes, will take the book itself in completely different directions.
Perhaps even, back to the future to a past–a pre-modern place populated by the works (but not novels) of Homer, Sophocles, Aeschylus, the Old Testament authors, Tacitus, Seneca, and Saint Augustine–where we haven’t been as readers, in the West, in a while.
Feeling Invisible
Everyone feels invisible to someone at some time. It’s part and parcel of the human condition.
But the path to becoming visible doesn’t go through other people. It goes through the agency and the autonomy a person gets for themselves.
And then it continues, secondly, by negotiating with other people in the world who typically have their own emotional and psychological events going on in their heads.
Autonomy and agency don’t come from the presence of external markers or via external validation from other, equally flawed, people. Autonomy and agency are confirmed by external markers second.
Eliminating invisibility always begins with the hard work people must do internally.
And if a person’s internal north star is pointed in any direction other than at the highest, most transcendent reality, there’s going to be inevitable trouble, confusion, chaos, trauma, and despair in achieving such internal visibility to themselves first.
It’s part and parcel of the human condition.
Apocalyptic Anxiety
In the Western world–and by that term I mean the countries that are heirs to the promises of the 18th Century Enlightenment project, including most of the countries of Western Europe, the United States, Canada, Great Britain, and, of course, Japan and South Korea–anxiety about everything, everywhere always being in a state of dismal decline and ignominious ending is a common theme.
If we’re honest (which usually we’re not, as self-absorbed and blinkered as we are), such anxiety about an “always on the come” Apocalypse–whether personal or corporate, whether from Mother Nature or the Almighty God–is “baked in” to the behavioral pie of people of the West. From the Battle of Lepanto in 1571 to the current battles over whose politics get to rule the Internet, people in the West temperamentally love an argument, love having anxiety about conflict, and love the dynamism of not getting along with each other.
Even all the way to the point of an externally delivered, near Armageddon. Or at least, whatever will do until that Armageddon actually shows up.
And at the last minute, when the psychological barbarians are decamped at the gate, and the physical structures are about to be torn down by the literal barbarians, we people in the West, weirdly enough, come together, make a decision, and then proceed to move like white lightning, rampaging over all of the authoritarian, theocratic, non-Western, and, of course solidly unified “others.”
The strange thing is, we in the West have been engaged in that pattern of intercivilizational behavior for at least the last half a millennium with no foreseeable hitch in our step.
The fact of the matter is, the battle of Armageddon is always there to be joined. The Apocalypse of the righteous and the unrighteous alike is always upon us. The “end of all things” always shows up, like clockwork, in the minds of the anxious, the impatient, and the dissatisfied. What appears from the outside to be a state of endless chaos, fractious disunity, and an exploitable weakness, always–just in the nick of time usually–provides people in the West with the dynamism, unpredictability, and raw courage, at the tip of the spear, to do the thing that needs to be done, when all hope seems to be lost.
And then to return home–physically, psychologically, and even spiritually victorious–only to start bickering amongst ourselves yet again.
I don’t see the next 75 years of people in the West having any different pattern of behavior than they have exhibited in the last 500 years.
Under Pressure
Pressure is a valuable state. It focuses and sharpens concentration, creates friction inside an experience, and it encourages the growth of resilience under stress.
Pressure creates diamonds along with heat and time in the geologic realm. In the psychological realm, pressure creates stress and trauma, along with emotional heat.
Pathologizing stress into trauma and encouraging avoidance of pressure rather than acceptance of the fact of pressure leads to creating not diamonds, but pieces of coal with stress fractures that, when heat is applied, burn and fade.
Social Shame and Embarrassment as the Friction that Develops
The use and presence of our AI tools in business and organizations will be used as an excuse to stop developing junior employees because, well, “AI can do it better.”
The first generation of college students who have been exposed to ChatGPT for the last four years are graduating from college this June. They enter a work world where they will automatically have agency from organizations and employers to build slop, believe in slop, and advocate for slop arguments. And, to make matters even worse, the work world represents the final iteration of a social and educational world that has validated their every thought and assertion, right or wrong, since they were in kindergarten.
It used to be, up until about five minutes ago, culturally and socially, that the social and cultural shame and embarrassment attached to not knowing facts, ideas, or even the underpinnings of facts and ideas were enough to encourage curiosity. Or at least shame and embarrassment prevented the aggressively ignorant from asserting the wrong things at an increasingly loud decibel level.
But such social and cultural guardrails have been seen for at least two generations as merely limiting creativity and creative expression. And leveraging those tools by mid-career and senior leaders is now associated with delivering undeserved trauma to juniors who are, quite frankly, ignorant. And thus, the use of those tools of shame and embarrassment has been eroded quite significantly.
We are arriving quite quickly at a weird cultural and social cul-de-sac in the world of work. One where the junior employees we are seeking to develop confidently assert facts that are based on AI slop, social media algorithmic feedback loops, and an astonishing lack of practical education. And they don’t have the experience, maturity, courage, or competence to spot the slop, fight the algorithm, or get the education.
On the other hand, we have senior and mid-career leaders who can’t be bothered to employ even rudimentary social norming tools in the workplace because the backlash from leveraging those tools isn’t worth the outcomes they never see. Instead, it’s just easier to pay $100 a month for an AI stack that “Can do it better.”
There must be a way out of this cul-de-sac. Because if there isn’t, it’s going to be a long next twenty-five years in the work world.
A Tweet is not a Vote
Sometimes people on the other side of an ideological, social, moral, or ethical debate have a point. And when they have a point, it’s intellectually principled to acknowledge the point. Though it might be emotionally painful.
Here is the point, once made by a politician, in response to an online activist’s criticism of her political decisions: “A Tweet is not a vote.”
By which she meant: No amount of blogging, tweeting, posting, meme-dropping, or complaining online is a substitute for doing the work of going out to vote, encouraging people door-to-door to vote, or taking people to the polls to vote.
But that work is hard. And just as in so many other areas of the civic, public, and even corporate life of modern Americans, we’d rather perform what is easy than practically do what is hard.
When your ideological, social, moral, or political opponents do the hard, simple, and unglamorous work, they win the power. And all you get in return is the opportunity to complain, tweet, meme-post, or blog more about what they’re not doing right.
Am I My Brother's Keeper?
Resentment and entitlement go hand in hand.
In the Book of Genesis, Cain was resentful of his brother Abel’s abilities and talents, and he was envious of the acceptance of his brother’s sacrifices to a transcendent God. After God–or reality, take your pick–discovered he had killed his brother in a fit of murderous rage, Cain quipped back at reality, “…Am I my brother’s keeper?” (Genesis 4:9 KJV).
The remainder of the Bible, from that question all the way through the Book of Revelation, seeks to answer Cain’s rather entitled and myopic question. In our era, we in the West are suffering from the twin cultural, political, and economic sins of resentment and entitlement. Resentment by current generations of those generations who have come before, and entitlement for rewards they have yet to earn.
Of course, most of this resentment and entitlement is being recorded and documented in online forums, postings, and videos. Which renders such expressions of resentment and entitlement somewhat suspect from the beginning. After all, the fervent postings of those “Very Online” types might be nothing more than Iranian, Russian, Ukrainian, Chinese, or Cuban bot factories posing as real, Western-man, humans.
In spite of not knowing who is a bot and who is not, it is important to note that resentment and entitlement don’t serve to build bridges. Of course, if you don’t care about building and only care about rebellion and deconstruction, then resentment and entitlement will bring you all the way to the clearing at the end of the path, where the repetition of the murder of the Abel’s of the West can pick back up right where we left it off in the mid-20th century.
The Rights You Have
You don’t have a right to the market, the attention, the money, the status, or the education you think you deserve.
You don’t have the right to lecture to the people who have earned the market, the attention, the money, the status, or the education you think they don’t deserve, about what they can or can’t do with the fruits of their labor.
If you don’t like the way in which the eponymous “they” earned the market, earned the attention, earned the money, earned the status, or earned the education, then you have two options: 1) Change the systems, or 2) See the first option.
Changing people might feel sexier, but changing systems is the real work.
But if you’re not willing to work to achieve the market, the attention, the money, the status, or the education that “they” earned in the first place in order to outcompete “them, I can see how it would be more attractive to complain about the outcomes of a system that would take work to change.
Behaviors are Driven by Incentives
Behaviors are driven by incentives. And we have to be honest about incentives. Some are emotional. Some are psychological. Some are driven by society. Some are driven by other people.
But all behaviors are driven by incentives. Either internal or external.
Remember, when you tax a behavior, you get less of that behavior. When you subsidize a behavior, you get more of it. When you give permission for a behavior, people will test whether or not your permission has boundaries. And when you say, either verbally or non-verbally, “Go this far and no further,” well, people will (usually) go that far. And no further.
The reason people in authority don’t care about alignment between incentives and behaviors of the people they rule over is multifaceted, but at the bottom of all those reasons is a basic one: They don’t understand the incentives that drive their own behaviors, desires, and appetites.
And when you don’t understand yourself, you rule over others foolishly, tyrannically, or lackadaisically.
We all have to get radically honest about the incentives that drive our behaviors, no matter how we feel about those incentives. And then we have to vigorously encourage our leaders–those “people in authority” I just mentioned–to express honestly the incentives driving their behaviors.
Anonymous Verification
The marketer and author, Seth Godin, made a point years ago, in either a book of his or on his long-running blog site, that sets the table for my observations today, “No society ever survived anonymous feedback.”
He was right, of course.
And as our national and global public discourse has declined into tribalism, violence, and polarization, calls for identifying people verifiably as people for the purposes of policing online discourse have increased.
The problem with verification of “humans as humans” and not “humans as bots” is not a “free speech” smothering problem.
People are free to speak (or write), but they have never been free from the consequences of such speech or written words. That’s why the 1st Amendment in the US Constitution is followed closely by the 2nd Amendment.
The problem with the verification of “humans as humans” for the purposes of making humans behave in their online communication is that humans have been shaped in their behaviors, communication patterns, and appetites by the Internet, as much as the Internet has been shaped by them. Problems with anonymity were just the tip of the iceberg in human communication and behavioral challenges with this new technology.
I am not opposed to human verification to police toxic commentary on the Internet. But I am opposed to verifying humans as humans as a shortcut to the hard work of mitigating behavior that is as much psychological and spiritual as it is material and emotional.
The problem lies not in the Internet, the trolls, or even the bots, dear Internet Commentator, but in ourselves.
And if we want society to survive, neither anonymity nor verification is going to serve well as cudgels to get humans to behave and communicate more humanely.
The Man Who Was Thursday
Smart people in society used to worry that people in classes lower than theirs would become monsters through osmosis by hanging around people who were already monsters.
Other than self-aware parents, I don’t know of any smart person, in an elite position of power in our society, in my day right now, who worries too much about that kind of influence anymore. Heck, we applaud people who may be of questionable character and give them attention and trust, based on the fact that they might be able to move an algorithm to “influence” some audience member’s behavior.
The lack of worry–and the presence of social applause–might be part of the reason that it appears as though there are more monsters, with larger microphones, around as of late.
The Water vs. The Rock
Getting rid of distractions is the easy part.
Delete the app on your phone.
Close the door to your office.
“Mute” the notifications on your phone.
Stop answering emails.
Not one of those things is hard. What is hard is committing to not reinstalling the app, opening the door to your office, “unmuting” the notifications on your phone, or answering the emails.
Commitment takes willpower, and the modern world is designed to drain us of that thing. The thing that neuroscientists can’t find in the brain, and that psychologists say doesn’t exist in the mind, but which every algorithm relies on wearing down, one interruption, one notification, one dopamine-driven impulse at a time.
Drip.
Drip.
Drip.
The rock stops getting eroded by the water first by being moved away from the water source, and then by building up a tougher, thicker layer of sediment.
Unreliable Narrators
Now that we all live in a culture where most (if not many) objective truths have been reduced to subjective feelings, we navigate a globalized environment where we are all a species of unreliable narrators.
Sure, we can “know” people relationally and determine the reliability of their closely-held narratives, but increasingly even that is becoming a problem at the localized level, which is the level most of us still live at.
Another, simpler way of putting this is, we are all liars. And in a world full of liars, the most dangerous and courageous person is the one who insists, despite the conditions surrounding them, that 1). there is objective truth, 2). humans, no matter their background, education, or temperament, can know what that truth is, and 3). that subjective feelings about objective truths represent the beginnings of rebellion against the order of reality itself.
It’s no wonder that unreliable narrators–what we used to call liars–are proliferating faster than we can address their lies. The problem, dear Horatio, lies in us, not in the stars.